April is Sexual Assault Awareness Month


In Honor of
Sexual Assault Awareness Month
April 1 – April 30, 2009

Vanilla Heart Publishing
has an amazing selection of E-books
available to help increase awareness
and offer comfort to survivors
at greatly reduced prices

Bartlett’s & Survivors ~ $10 each ~ Courage & Strength / Man

Namid’s books ~ $5 each

See my Xanga Blog for more information on
Sexual Assault Awareness and Prevention Month

About the "new" Bartlett’s Rule – pass it around

Bartlett’s Rule, originally published by Vanilla Heart Publishing in April, 2008, was just re-released with a new cover – but there is more than just a new face. In the back of the book is an expanded resource section with helpful information about sexual abuse…

Bartlett’s Rule shares the story of Lon and Paige’s love affair; a romance filled with hardship, emotion, danger and triumph. Falling in love was never the challenge; being there for each other, knowing just what to say and making it work is the real test. Paige and Lon are real ; they are human, they cry and they laugh. Paige has to learn to trust. Lon has to learn to be patient.

Paige Andrews, the heroine of the fictional tale Bartlett’s Rule, is a rape survivor. Paige and her hero, Lon Bartlett, have to learn to love and trust each other despite her past and his womanizing reputation.

Emotional First Aid for Survivors
1) Anything and everything you experience is normal. Your reactions, feelings and experiences are all valid, you are not going crazy. You have the right to express your feelings in any way you want or need.
2) The rape was not your fault. You are not responsible for what happened to you in any way. You have nothing to be ashamed about.
3) It’s time you take care of yourself. You definitely deserve it. You are a valuable person and deserve the best life has to offer. You need to come first, so do whatever makes you feel better.
4) No matter what anyone says, you are a good, strong woman.
5) Other people may hurt or disappoint you. They do not understand how you feel. Disregard anything hurtful.
6) You are not dirty or used or damaged.
7) You are safe, the rape is over.
8) You are not alone. There are people ready and willing to help (friends, family, social workers, women’s shelters and other resources are always readily available to you.).
9) Hang in there. It may become difficult at times, but you will survive. You already have survived the worst.
10) YOU HAVE DONE NOTHING WRONG. Place the blame where it belongs. And, remember: You are a good, strong, beautiful, wonderful person.
(Source: YWCA: Richmond, VA)

Online Support and Information Groups
National Women’s Health Information Center
Pandora’s Aquarium
Surviving the Memories
Escaping Hades
Safe Horizon

Buy Bartlett’s Rule

other helpful books:

A Guide to Survivorhood by Namid

Secondary Survivors by Namid

Love this Review!

I love this review of Forgotten posted by Namid on GoodReads:

“Holy crap! Ok, I know that’s not a good literary term, but this is PHENOMENAL!!!! I’ve only been reading for a short period of time, but this story just engulfs you right away! There is so much depth, intrigue – this book is WAY more intricate than I had had expected. It is BEAUTIFULLY crafted. Not a book you can put down by any means. If you haven’t already, you HAVE to read this book! Thank you so much, Chelle! This book ROCKS!!!! 🙂 “

Namid rated it: 5 stars

12/10/08 bookshelves: currently-reading
Read in December, 2008

recommended to Namid by: Kimberlee
recommends it for: EVERYONE

Forgotten by Chelle Cordero


This week on Xanga

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Monday, September 29, 2008 Book Promo: HANDLE TiME by Lincoln Park http://weblog.xanga.com/cce613/676091570/book-promo-handle-time-by-lincoln-park.html

Wednesday, October 01, 2008 Women-in-Charge: Sheryl Brennan http://weblog.xanga.com/cce613/676099029/women-in-charge-sheryl-brennan.html

Friday, October 03, 2008 Book review: To Dance Amongst the Stars by Namid http://weblog.xanga.com/cce613/675189270/book-review-to-dance-amongst-the-stars-by-namid.html

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Put these on your holiday shopping list!

Bundled Books from
Vanilla Heart Publishing

Gift Pack of all three fabulous
Chelle Cordero novels of 2008!
Great for gift-giving or to treasure yourself!

Bartlett’s Rule and Secondary Survivors This fabulous bundle pack incorporates fiction (Bartlett’s Rule by Chelle Cordero) and non-fiction (Secondary Survivors by Namid) to bring comfort and knowledge to survivors and their loved ones in a presentation of healing and hope.

Vanilla Heart Publishing
more great Bundled Books
all at 20% discount!

Bartlett’s Rule Book Club Discussion Topics

Bartlett’s Rule shares the story of Lon and Paige’s love affair; a romance filled with hardship, emotion, danger and triumph. Falling in love was never the challenge; being there for each other, knowing just what to say and making it work is the real test. Paige and Lon are “real”; they are human, they cry and they laugh. Paige has to learn to trust. Lon has to learn to be patient.

From the introduction:
When Paige Andrews is given the assignment of courting a famous writer for the publishing company she works for, she meets and entices the sexy, charming and thoroughly dangerous womanizer, Lon Bartlett.
Lon immediately takes a not-so-professional, personal interest in the young woman and pursues her. Lon is thrilled when Paige finally succumbs to his charms only to find that her haunting past sets off a terrifying reaction. Lon learns a heartbreaking reality – Paige is a rape survivor.

Will Lon be able to change his womanizing ways? Will he want to? Will Paige ever learn to trust again? Can they learn to love and live, together?

Discussion Starters for Bartlett’s Rule by Chelle Cordero

1. How does Bartlett’s Rule explore the two distinct personalities of the main characters?
2. Discuss how the different personalities emerge in the beginning of the novel. Do these personalities stay constant?
3. How much do you think society’s expectations influenced Lon towards building his reputation as a player?
4. What pressures does society place on men in relationships? How different are those pressures now in 2008 as opposed to, let’s say, the 1950’s?
5. Lon admits he has to rethink his view of rape when he learns that Paige was raped by an ex-lover and not a stranger with a weapon. Discuss different concepts of what is rape, what is sexual abuse?
6. Have a discussion about Paige’s emotional scars and the trust she felt was betrayed. Should Paige “just get over it”? How realistic are some of her reactions? Was Paige allowing herself to move ahead? Discuss Lon’s support of her.
7. Hal attempts to blame people like Lon for the way he treated Paige. How does TV/music/movies/novels affect actions and at what point is the individual responsible for his/her own actions? For example, courtroom dramas like to blame the influence of TV, etc. for today’s violence.
8. Some TV/radio/print personalities enjoy an almost cult following and are considered “experts” in their various fields. Discuss some of these self-proclaimed “experts”: Dr. Ruth, Oprah, Dr. Phil, Geraldo, etc. Do these ‘stars’ sensationalize rape? How so?
9. How do you think you would feel if your private life, particularly romance, was scrutinized by the paparazzi? How much does a public figure owe to the public and fans in terms of privacy? How much does the media have the right to report?

To Dance Amongst the Stars – A Journey of Healing and Hope by Namid
To Dance Amongst the Stars is written to share the author’s trials and triumphs of surviving and overcoming a lifetime of sexual abuse and abusive relationships, in the hopes that other abused women can find strength and hope in her story.
The very personal and extremely empowering tone and style is definitely meant to share the struggle and the resolutions for anyone who has been abused or loves someone who is a survivor of abuse.
The author says, “I used my own experience to reach out to other rape survivors. The wording may not be the most flowery, but I hope that by reading my experience in going through the healing process, others can begin to heal. I hope that people can draw something good from my experiences.”
$12.95 ISBN-13: 978-0-9814739-4-9 Vanilla Heart Publishing

A Guide to Survivorhood: Your Personal Journey of Healing and Hope by Namid
This workbook will help guide survivors and the people who love them through the often difficult journey to regain empowerment and self-esteem after sexual assault. Loaded with guided exercises, examples, resources, and discussions, the workbook gives the survivor the tools to rebuild a happy, whole and healthy self.
$12.95 ISBN-13: 978-0-9814739-9-7 Vanilla Heart Publishing

Speak by Laurie Halse Anderson
Melinda Sordino suffers through her freshman year at Merryweather High School in silence. Gradually, readers become aware that Melinda is spiraling out of control as she becomes mute and loses interest in herself, her family, and school. Why? She was raped at a party…
$8.99 ISBN: 9780141310886 Puffin

The Story of Jane Doe: a Book About Rape by Jane Doe
“The Story of Jane Doe is a startling document about a woman who was not willing to play the standard role of victim, a woman who brought attention to how rape was being handled by the police force, the legal system and, more important, by society. I found this book to be a thoroughly engrossing, intelligent account of rape, and I must say quite an eye-opener to boot.” — The Edmonton Journal”
ISBN 978-0-6793127-5-8 Random House of Canada, Limited

A few blogs & sites of note

I’ve been very lucky to become friends with some terrific writers and their sites are definitely worth a look –

The Write Words: Mini Lessons on Fiction Writing and the Writing Life by novelist and writing coach Smoky Trudeau. a VHP Author!

Mary Quast – Romance Writer a VHP Author!

Karen Harrington, Scobberlotch

About The Author – Ryan Callaway a VHP Author!

Award Winning Writer Sophia Dembling

Writer, Esmaa Self

Namid, founder of The R.A.P.E. Foundation a VHP Author!

…and here is my MySpace page – www.myspace.com/rikki613